Love Is Blind

Friday night Joe got a phone call that is ex-girlfriend/high school sweetheart was murdered by her own husband. He shot her, her mom, and then turned the gun on himself. Apparently they had a pretty abusive relationship, and she finally said enough and got a restraining order. He tracked her down anyway. It was upsetting to hear, for so many reasons. One, it was someone Joe cared about. Two, it was frightening to think that someone who is supposed to 'love, honor, and cherish' another, would ever think of doing such a thing. He obviously was not in his right mind, but even so. Our kind thoughts go out to their families. There were so many innocent victims in this senseless act, and the majority of them are still here.

This story hits close to home on another level. I have a friend whom I love dearly, and always have. She has listened to my rants for hours, laughed at my jokes even if they aren't funny, and has been through late nights and early mornings, regretting the late nights. She is definitely the sister I always wanted. But she is in a bad relationship, and has been for a long time. Her boyfriend has been physically, emotionally, and mentally abusive from the beginning. She has left him a few times, but always lets him come back. "He's really doing better..." , "He'll never do it again..." I know I don't have the right to make her choices, or even really give my full input. I keep a lot of my thoughts to myself, but I get so frustrated I can't even think. I worry constantly. If I can't get a hold of her for a while, I'll google her name to see if there's a news article with her in it. This may sound dramatic, but I truly fear for her. When people get mad, they don't think strait. They can't. And if someone has that much anger in them and the physical ability to do something, bad things happen. Even if accidental, the one time it goes too far could have grave consequences. It just takes one time, where you can't take it back, and you don't get the chance to say you're sorry, or you'll never do it again. I know there is nothing I can do to convince her she's better off. She'll either realize it on her own, or she'll never get the chance. For now, I try to support every decision she makes and hope for the best.